Kingett Reads Fifty Shades of Grey - Part 6
STORY BY Robert W. Kingett
Published: September 30, 2013
In this last review everything comes together in a shattering end. How is the book overall, how are the characters, how's the story arch? You'll find out soon! It’s time for Kingett to finish Fifty Shades of Grey.
I've recently learned what the phrase “don't judge a book by its cover means.” Before this column I knew what the word meant but I didn't have a chance to practice it and really bring it into an accessible context. Now that I have read Fifty Shades of Grey cover to cover the phrase holds more weight for me than ever before. Why? Because I've never dived into chapters before as I have done now. These last few chapters, chapters 21-26 were nothing special in the literary sense but it was a kind of closure. I know the story now, from front to end, and now I can definitely say my piece with finality and absolute. People say that experience is the best teacher that someone can ever have. I believe them.
In chapters 21 through 26 nothing significant happens except for a few points. Anna goes to see her mom so she can have some time to think and she sends Grey a very long email that details true thoughts that she's having about her role as a woman with him and a submissive. She wants him to change and she's worried that his BDSM lifestyle will harm her in ways that she doesn't know yet but she loves him because she can definitely see a different person underneath the bondage and the commanding nature. Someone who's care free, and someone who is a complete person and that means with his past as well but he just can't even try to let it go.
I'm not going to quote because I want to have this be a special reflective post about my feelings, based on my point of view overall.
Grey has an equally deep response in that he calls her beautiful and she has low self-esteem issues, and that he doesn't like the dominate side of her but he loves everything else about her, even though I find that VERY hard to believe, but I will get there. Grey writes that everyone has a choice and his choice is her. If I hadn’t seen how Grey acts in previous chapters outside the bedroom, I’d call this romantic and sweet. Knowing Grey, this is a disclaimer of possession. You’re mine! He tells Anna that she definitely has a LOT going for her and that she's a very lucky woman to be so bold and smart and witty and beautiful all in one package.
Anna makes it to her mother’s place where she's confused, and her mother and her try to hash out why and solve her confusion. Anna is touched by an email to Grey and suddenly misses the bond they have. Yes this is important and I'll explain why.
Anna sends Grey an email that says that she wishes that Grey were here, and he replied he would try to stay away. While out drinking with her mom, Grey flies up there and meets them two in the bar.
Right, I've ranted about Grey in previous chapters and this isn't helping paint his character in a positive light. Just because someone says they miss you doesn't mean they want to have you physically there when they need personal space to think, Grey.
What the hell? What the fuck? And women think he's attractive? Seriously? This is disturbing to me. This kind of boyfriend would make me beyond uncomfortable. There's a fine line between being romantic and creepy!
Anyway, they have sex in his hotel and then he flies back home. While Anna stays at her mom’s, she ponders about the relationship until she flies back home.
When she returns home, she wants to try something new in order to touch Grey even, hold him. she rolls her eyes which causes Grey to want to punish her so to try and bargain with him, she tells him to punish her to the fullest extent that would make him happy so she can hopefully, hug him, hold him, touch him. He spanks her with a belt and this opens up her eyes to just how deep his daemons go and she realizes the truth that they both want to have something from each other that neither can give. In light of this, Anna breaks up with Grey and the book ends.
Now that the book is over I have many feelings and thoughts.
Throughout this journey I've said how this relationship isn't healthy, and I believe that I have summed up everything within my previous reviews, but there are people who think that this is definitely a healthy relationship. Anna didn't know what she was getting into and he didn't tell her until her foot was half way through the door to is demon house.
Grey has a lot of issues that need to be worked out before he tries to find any woman. I don't believe he loves Anna. As I have stated, I believe she's just a tool to exact lust and revenge on someone who looks like Mrs. Robinson. Anna doesn't possess any real qualities that, in my head, paint her as a distinctive woman. The traits that Grey points out seem very common to me so I have an even harder time understanding why Anna is his passion. Grey is also very controlling in many ways, not including the BDSM. BDSM happens in the bedroom, and only in the bedroom.
In a BDSM relationship, it's all about trust and communication in the bedroom and not in any exterior activity. Grey is abusive because he takes the BDSM into the world. This isn't good.
Anna wants more. Through Anna and her small acts of defiance I can definitely tell that she wants more. Her heart pines for someone to hold at night and swallow her up in the same love.
I have a very hard time believing that Grey loves her and this is even more evident when he deliberately tries to keep her as she's walking out of the house. He knows is daemons, because he consciously hides them, so I don't know why he won’t tell Anna the daemons and yet burdens her with them, even if it's indirectly. This is manipulation. Not trust issues. If he knows about his own daemons then everything he does is a conscious act. Keeping this consciously to himself, this is manipulation. Grey is a horrible person!
Anna is confused, and doesn't present herself well throughout the book at all. It’s definitely hard to describe her within a sentence creating a bad character arch. Since she's the main narrator, I was looking for development. Even though I didn't get it until the end I still think that she has a lot of developing to do underneath and inside before she finds the right man. Anna isn't sure of whom she is yet. Grey should know this about Anna and he shouldn’t try and trap her into a preemptive lifestyle without letting her explore other possibilities and personality types. Time and time again, Grey tracks her location, shows up randomly wherever she is, demands her to have certain morals, and does everything that bridges the gap between caring and creepy. Obsession isn't healthy at all and I'm definitely glad this relationship ended.
The author paints all of these as an okay basis and it makes me uncomfortable because I'm reading nothing logical. I've read many novels where the characters determined how the twists were going to shape the overall story because their dynamics or personalities changed. The author says that this is an okay relationship filled with passion and that Grey has an excuse to be past the line of moral kindness.
I don't think this paints a healthy message in people. Simply put. Since the characters don't have dimensions this makes the concept disturbing and abusive, in my point of view.
It makes me feel as if the author really does not like men or women, or she tried to make something different and romantic to spread a message.
It says something though about her thinking. the author created the characters. She made Grey who he was with all his stalking and controlling non-BDSM related. I know plenty of people who are into BDSM and this paints a one-dimensional image.
I don't like how the author portrays having a rough life; I believe she's saying, by way of this book, that having a bad past is a viable excuse. It's not a good one but it is definitely an excuse. However, I've said in my last review that it's all about choice and action. Here, the stalking actions don't justify, nor the coldness he has towards Anna when she tries to want to help him open up and be a better person. I wouldn't call this a love story at all. This definitely is not a good romance formula to even try. The book made me feel uncomfortable the entire time because I was worried for Anna.
The pacing in the book is obscure. It doesn't follow a pattern at all and this isn't a bad thing but with just a bit more structure and scene cuts this book would have flowed better.
The writing in the book is okay. Sure there are HUGE problems here and there but that didn't take away from the experience of reading the book.
The price of femininity shouldn’t be splayed by erotic fantasies and this book shouldn’t be given an exception about being held to literary standards because it's an erotic book.
I don't understand why people support the love inside this book. This isn't romantic at all and I don’t get why this book is a love icon. This book can be a manual on how to have a mentally abusive relationship...
Will I be reading the rest of the series? No I won’t. This disjointed journey was enough for me. I've read the book cover to cover, and no one can say that I haven't, and I've concluded with my own very strong thoughts. For such a popular icon this book should have been better in terms of ingredients. Now that I have finally finished this journey, I can definitely say with firm conviction that this book isn't good.
Thank you very much all! It has been a wonderful adventure. Stay tuned as Kingett Reads chooses another book.
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I'm very grateful that you all have viewed my column and many more will come. For now though, I'm headed off to the library.
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